DEKONSTRUKSI MAKNA PERNIKAHAN PADA MASYARAKAT KONTEMPORER: Studi Fenomenologi tentang Living Together

Sri Fatimah Nurhayati, - and Elly Malihah, - and Nindita Fajria Utami, - (2025) DEKONSTRUKSI MAKNA PERNIKAHAN PADA MASYARAKAT KONTEMPORER: Studi Fenomenologi tentang Living Together. S1 thesis, Universitas Pendidikan Indonesia.

Abstract

Penelitian ini mengkaji tentang bagaimana praktik living together (kohabitasi) ikut menggeser cara masyarakat memaknai pernikahan di era kontemporer. Secara khusus, studi ini menjawab tiga pertanyaan: (1) bagaimana individu yang belum menikah merasionalisasikan keputusan untuk tinggal bersama, (2) bagaimana praktik tersebut mendekonstruksi makna pernikahan, dan (3) bagaimana ia berkontribusi pada pergeseran nilai serta norma sosial. Dengan menggunakan pendekatan fenomenologi (hermeneutik) dan wawancara mendalam terhadap 11 informan kunci lintas generasi dan masyarakat umum di Kota Bandung, penelitian ini menggali pengalaman subjektif dan konteks sosial-budaya tempat praktik ini berlangsung. Analisis dipertajam menggunakan teori dekonstruksi Derrida untuk membongkar oposisi “sah/tidak sah” dan teori pilihan rasional untuk memetakan pertimbangan utilitarian pelaku. Hasilnya: (RQ1) pilihan living together dirasionalisasikan lewat kalkulasi manfaat (efisiensi biaya/waktu, kenyamanan emosional, logistik harian) dan uji kecocokan, keputusan dipengaruhi juga oleh bentuk lokasi hunian yang memberi privasi. (RQ2) terjadi substitusi parsial fungsi keluarga, yakni kedekatan emosional, koordinasi domestik, dan sebagian dukungan sosial dapat “ditiru”, namun ranah legal-keagamaan (status anak, waris, perlindungan hukum) tetap tidak tergantikan. (RQ3) normalisasi bersifat kontekstual: toleransi faktual tumbuh di ruang urban/digital dan antar-generasi tertentu, sementara institusi tetap menegaskan batas legalitas. Temuan-temuan ini dipadatkan dalam Model T³ (Trial, Tujuan utilitarian, Toleransi faktual) yang menjelaskan mengapa praktik kohabitasi bertahan. Praktik ini berfungsi sebagai uji coba relasi, memberi manfaat praktis, dan berjalan di bawah toleransi diam-diam, namun tetap terbatas ketika menyentuh hak dan pengakuan formal. Secara teoretis, studi ini mengisi celah penelitian yang masih didominasi pendekatan normatif dan moral dengan menghadirkan pembacaan dekonstruktif atas makna pernikahan berbasis pengalaman pelaku dan pengamat sosial. This study examines how the practice of living together (cohabitation) reshapes societal meanings of marriage in the contemporary era. Specifically, it addresses three questions: (1) how unmarried individuals rationalize the decision to live together; (2) how this practice deconstructs the meaning of marriage; and (3) how it contributes to shifts in social values and norms. Using a hermeneutic phenomenological approach and in-depth interviews with 11 key informants across generations and members of the general public in Bandung, the research explores lived experiences and the socio-cultural contexts in which this practice occurs. The analysis is sharpened by Derrida’s deconstruction to interrogate the “legal/illegal” opposition and by rational choice theory to map actors’ utilitarian considerations. Findings: (RQ1) cohabitation is rationalized through perceived payoffs—cost/time efficiency, emotional comfort, and everyday logistics—as well as a “trial” function; decisions are also shaped by housing forms and locations that provide privacy. (RQ2) there is a partial substitution of family functions: emotional intimacy, domestic coordination, and some forms of social support can be “replicated,” whereas legally and religiously codified domains (child status, inheritance, legal protection) remain irreplaceable. (RQ3) normalization is contextual: factual (de facto) tolerance grows in urban/digital spaces and among certain generations, while institutions continue to enforce legal boundaries. These insights are synthesized in the T³ Model (Trial, Utilitarian Goals, Factual Tolerance), which explains why cohabitation persists: it functions as a relational try-out, yields practical benefits, and proceeds under tacit tolerance, yet remains constrained when formal rights and recognition are at stake. Theoretically, this study fills a gap in a literature still dominated by normative and moral approaches by offering a deconstructive, experience-based account of how the meaning of marriage is renegotiated in everyday life.

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Item Type:	Thesis (S1)
Additional Information:	https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=id&authuser=1&user=GQ_8rj0AAAAJ ID SINTA Dosen Pembimbing: Elly Malihah: 5978468 Nindita Fajria Utami: 6682469
Uncontrolled Keywords:	Dekonstruksi, Fenomenologi, Kohabitasi, Pernikahan, Rasionalisasi. Deconstruction; Phenomenology; Cohabitation; Marriage; Rationalization.
Subjects:	H Social Sciences > HQ The family. Marriage. Woman L Education > L Education (General)
Divisions:	Fakultas Pendidikan Ilmu Pengetahuan Sosial > Sosiologi
Depositing User:	Sri Fatimah Nurhayati
Date Deposited:	29 Sep 2025 00:30
Last Modified:	29 Sep 2025 00:30
URI:	http://repository.upi.edu/id/eprint/140800

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